All humans have a tendency to be a bit more like Eeyore than Tigger, to dwell more on bad experiences than positive ones. It’s actually an evolutionary adaptation that helps us avoid danger and react quickly in a crisis.
Buuuuuut constant negativity can also get in the way of happiness, who would've guessed - I know!
Our constant negativity adds to our stress and worry level and ultimately damages our health and wellbeing. Some of us are more prone to negative thinking than others. Our thinking styles can be genetic or the product of our childhood experiences. Children can develop negative thinking habits if they have been teased or bullied, or experienced traumas or abuse. Women, overall, are also more likely to cultivate negative thoughts than men.
The thing is, in our society we are brought up and geared to learn from negative experiences but we don't pay nearly half as much attention to the positive ones.
But with practice you can learn to disrupt and tame negative cycles.
The first step to stopping negative thoughts is a surprising one. Don’t try to stop them. If you are obsessing about a lost job opportunity or the results of your fitness test, whatever you do, don’t tell yourself, “I have to stop thinking about this.”
Sometimes the best way to disarm negative thoughts is to actually look them head on and it's when you can be brace enough to do that you might find that they begin to disintegrate and dissolve. By acknowlegding your negative thinking you're on a much more stable platform to challenge your negative thoughts.
If you’re having trouble challenging your negative thoughts, try this approach. Imagine that your friend is the one who received the bad news per se. What advice would you give him or her? Now think of how that advice might apply to you.
The trouble with negative thinking is, it's really, really easy to get caught in negative thought patterns. The mind flits from one bad thing to another. You and only you have the power to do this. Make happy your new obsession!